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The Alli Worthington Show

Author, speaker, entrepreneur, and mom to five sons, Alli Worthington, hosts her show built on one simple premise- bring on people she loves, respects and wants to learn from.


You will love the fun interview-style conversations followed by coaching time where Alli answers listener questions about faith, business, and life.


Alli is also the author of Breaking Busy, Fierce Faith, and The Year of Living Happy. She loves speaking at conferences about faith, business, and living life well.

Dec 7, 2020

Hello Friends!   If you’ve been on the Internet at any point in the past couple of years, you’ve likely encountered the Enneagram. Or at least the watercolor, hand-lettered Instagram form of it. 

Today, we’re pushing the memes aside (no matter how funny or true they may be!) and diving into Enneagram numbers, arrows and wings with the delightful Marilyn Vancil. 

Marilyn is an author, Certified Enneagram Professional and spiritual director who uses the Enneagram to help others develop self-awareness so they can live out the unique life experience God created for them. 

In her new book, Self to Lose, Self to Find: Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self, Marilyn explores the beloved, ancient personality typing system as a means to uncover greater freedom in one’s spiritual, emotional and relational life.

We start out our conversation with a short refresher on the nine types of the Enneagram along with God’s gifts for each type. If you’re well-versed in the basics, you may want to skip ahead to about 29 minutes in. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll be interested in everything Marilyn has to say about the Enneagram.

During our deep dive, Marilyn and I talk about:  

1. The difference between the adaptive self and the authentic self and how to recognize them

2. What causes our disagreements with others more often than not

3. How our Enneagram wings create balance and nuance

And stick around for our coaching segment, where I reveal how to determine if your business idea will work or not. Plus, I have a special offer just for this week!

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Favorite quotes:

The Enneagram helps give more definition, more understanding of what your particular obstacles are. It’s just a tool but it’s really helpful in discerning where it is we’re stuck.

When we’re trying to determine our type it's good to look at what you are like under stress.

Some people say you only have one wing. I think we have two and one is stronger than the other at times but we access both of them. They both influence you.

We have our arrows. We have our wings. We have our dominant type. It’s really important to say this is the pattern. These are just patterns, these are not definitions. This is describing a pattern of being. It’s really important not to peg yourself or others.


In this episode I answer this question:

I want to start a side business to bring in income for the family but I don’t know if I have the personality for it. How do I know if I can make it work? (50:47)


Great things we discussed: 

1. Marilyn Vancil

2. Self to Lose Self to Find

3. This Is Us

4. The Liturgy of The Ordinary

5. Passion To Profit

6. The Polar Express

7. Tribl

8. Weightless

9. Standing Strong


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